We hear a lot of people talking about balance – balancing work and life, balancing family responsibilities and volunteer commitments, balancing a healthy lifestyle and spiritual time, balancing all the things we want to do with our time and even the things we don’t, like cleaning, car maintenance, laundry, and the long list of to-do’s that often overwhelm us.
I don’t know about you, but for a long time I thought it was possible to do it all. A wise coach once told me, “You can have everything you want in life, just not all at the same time.” I am trying to take that message to heart and not beat myself up when I can’t do it all, when I can’t be all things to all people, and when I have to say no.
I am starting to understand (slowly but surely) that perfect balance is a myth. It not about giving equal time to each area of my life. It’s about understanding my priorities and aligning how I spend my time with those priorities. Further, it’s about having people in my life who hold me accountable when the way I’m spending my time isn’t a reflection of what matters most to me.
These are hard lessons to learn. I talk to coaching clients often about the difference between knowing and doing. Even though I KNOW that perfect balance is a myth, for some reason I keep chasing it, thinking that maybe somehow I’m superhuman enough to achieve it.
Here’s to letting go of unrealistic expectations of ourselves. Here’s to releasing ourselves from guilt when we can’t do it all. Here’s to taking it one day a time and doing the best that we can each day to prioritize what matters most. Here’s to becoming the best version of ourselves!